Just a quick update. Tyler is coping well. It was a long week but all is well.
Vicky and butter bean are growing by leaps and bounds. At her last visit she had gained 5 pounds in the last month. We didn't get to see the doctor as she had an emergency. Our next appointment is February 19. Vicky will get to experience the great glucose tolerance test on that day! Also after that appointment will will start seeing the doctor every two weeks!! Can we be getting that close??? Still lots to do!!
Until next time....
Saturday, January 26, 2008
Thursday, January 24, 2008
In His Memory
Deep sadness filled our home this weekend....
I was getting ready for work Friday night and Tyler asked if he could go to Billy's house for an Xb.ox party. Vicky had come home from work not feeling well and was sleeping. I told Tyler - if you can find a ride - you can go. He tells me that he will call Stefan. I wasn't really listening as I was preoccupied with getting ready to leave. I tell Vicky that Tyler wants to go to Billy's and I was out the door.
I was watching the 10:00 PM news in the break room in the hospital trying to catch the weather because it was really cold and raining. They had a piece on the news about three teenagers in an accident close to where we lived out by the high school. The news said the passengers and the driver received moderate to severe injuries. The car had flipped in a ditch. My heart begins to pound. I call home. Vicky answers the phone. Tyler is fine. He is at home. I tell them the news. Vicky says Tyler heard someone was in a wreck but no one knows who it is. I am instantly relieved Tyler is OK and safe at home.
I call to check on them again later. Tyler knows it was Stefan in the car. No news yet all three still hanging in there.
I finish my shift and come home in the nasty weather. Change my clothes and get in the bed with Vicky who is still sleeping. She turns over and says we had a long night. We tried to call you. Stefan didn't make it. My heart broke. What do you mean he didn't make it? She says they got the call about 2:00 AM. Tyler's had a rough night. So I ask about the details. Who else was in the car? Colby and Devin. What were they doing? What happened? She didn't know. Tears flow from my eyes as I start to remember what Tyler was saying to me as I was leaving the night before. He was going to call Stefan. For a ride. They were all going to Billy's to play Ha.lo. Tyler tried to call and Stefan or Colby didn't call him back.
The feelings that start to rush through as you realize - Tyler could have been in the car. Close. So very close. We usually take Tyler everywhere he needs to go. We usually never let him ride with his friends - only if their parents drive. I was this close to a lapse in judgement. Actually - I did have a lapse in judgement - I told him he could go - but something stopped him from going. An unanswered phone call. An unanswered text message.
Stefan is gone. Colby and Devin have some bruises and stitches. They were both very lucky. All of the boys played soccer together at the high school. The coach called them all together Saturday afternoon. They gathered at the field to comfort one another and pray. In silence they lined up and kicked goals for Stefan. These kids are too young to have to go through this. Tonight at the soccer game they began the game playing in a "man down" strategy with only 10 players instead of 11 in honor of Stefan. Tomorrow is the visitation and Friday is the funeral.
Tyler is doing as well as can be expected. Ups and downs. Closeness and distance. We try to watch him close for signs of anything he may need to help him through this. We love him so much. I am so glad he is home.
Until next time... #18 always in our hearts....
I was getting ready for work Friday night and Tyler asked if he could go to Billy's house for an Xb.ox party. Vicky had come home from work not feeling well and was sleeping. I told Tyler - if you can find a ride - you can go. He tells me that he will call Stefan. I wasn't really listening as I was preoccupied with getting ready to leave. I tell Vicky that Tyler wants to go to Billy's and I was out the door.
I was watching the 10:00 PM news in the break room in the hospital trying to catch the weather because it was really cold and raining. They had a piece on the news about three teenagers in an accident close to where we lived out by the high school. The news said the passengers and the driver received moderate to severe injuries. The car had flipped in a ditch. My heart begins to pound. I call home. Vicky answers the phone. Tyler is fine. He is at home. I tell them the news. Vicky says Tyler heard someone was in a wreck but no one knows who it is. I am instantly relieved Tyler is OK and safe at home.
I call to check on them again later. Tyler knows it was Stefan in the car. No news yet all three still hanging in there.
I finish my shift and come home in the nasty weather. Change my clothes and get in the bed with Vicky who is still sleeping. She turns over and says we had a long night. We tried to call you. Stefan didn't make it. My heart broke. What do you mean he didn't make it? She says they got the call about 2:00 AM. Tyler's had a rough night. So I ask about the details. Who else was in the car? Colby and Devin. What were they doing? What happened? She didn't know. Tears flow from my eyes as I start to remember what Tyler was saying to me as I was leaving the night before. He was going to call Stefan. For a ride. They were all going to Billy's to play Ha.lo. Tyler tried to call and Stefan or Colby didn't call him back.
The feelings that start to rush through as you realize - Tyler could have been in the car. Close. So very close. We usually take Tyler everywhere he needs to go. We usually never let him ride with his friends - only if their parents drive. I was this close to a lapse in judgement. Actually - I did have a lapse in judgement - I told him he could go - but something stopped him from going. An unanswered phone call. An unanswered text message.
Stefan is gone. Colby and Devin have some bruises and stitches. They were both very lucky. All of the boys played soccer together at the high school. The coach called them all together Saturday afternoon. They gathered at the field to comfort one another and pray. In silence they lined up and kicked goals for Stefan. These kids are too young to have to go through this. Tonight at the soccer game they began the game playing in a "man down" strategy with only 10 players instead of 11 in honor of Stefan. Tomorrow is the visitation and Friday is the funeral.
Tyler is doing as well as can be expected. Ups and downs. Closeness and distance. We try to watch him close for signs of anything he may need to help him through this. We love him so much. I am so glad he is home.
Until next time... #18 always in our hearts....
Sunday, January 20, 2008
I have been tagged...
I have been tagged by Shari at Magical Curiosity. So here it goes....
First, The Rules:
1) Link to the person that tagged you.
2) Post the rules on your blog.
3) Share six non-important things/habits/quirks about yourself.
4) Tag at least three people at the end of your post and link to their blogs.
5) Let each person know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.
6) Let the fun begin!
1. I am a chocolate connoisseur with Godiva being my all time favorite.
2. I love tulips.
3. I traded my convertible in for a Mommy van before we even got pregnant.
4. I am Miss Fix-It. I can do carpentry, plumbing and semi-electrical work. I built our deck in front of our house.
5. I love spontaneous road trips. Our last road trip we ended up in Dallas eating at this great restaurant called Razoo's.
6. I love to read!!! Current book is Third Degree by Greg Il.es. He is an author from my hometown in Natch.ez, MS.
I will tag...
1. A Nanny's Depth of Field
2. Piccolo Girl
3. It Goes So Fast
First, The Rules:
1) Link to the person that tagged you.
2) Post the rules on your blog.
3) Share six non-important things/habits/quirks about yourself.
4) Tag at least three people at the end of your post and link to their blogs.
5) Let each person know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.
6) Let the fun begin!
1. I am a chocolate connoisseur with Godiva being my all time favorite.
2. I love tulips.
3. I traded my convertible in for a Mommy van before we even got pregnant.
4. I am Miss Fix-It. I can do carpentry, plumbing and semi-electrical work. I built our deck in front of our house.
5. I love spontaneous road trips. Our last road trip we ended up in Dallas eating at this great restaurant called Razoo's.
6. I love to read!!! Current book is Third Degree by Greg Il.es. He is an author from my hometown in Natch.ez, MS.
I will tag...
1. A Nanny's Depth of Field
2. Piccolo Girl
3. It Goes So Fast
Monday, January 14, 2008
Jumping Hurdles
One of the biggest hurdles during this pregnancy that I was worried about has been jumped. I often worried and agonized over how I would tell MY employers that "we were expecting". I am a nurse and work in a very catholic hospital. My employers did not know of my personal life and I did not volunteer. I always thought to myself that my personal life was mine and while I was at work I was completely professional in my role as a nurse. I didn't want to shade any of my coworkers thoughts about me being a gay individual.
I often thought or wondered how I would eventually tell them if we actually did get pregnant. When we did - my worries tripled. How do I tell them?? Do I tell them I'll need some time off in May for a family event? It seemed to me to be very overwhelming to have to come out to my employers and then say "Oh, by the way, we are expecting and the baby's due in May."
I would look for opportunities to tell them. The perfect time. But it never really happened. Vicky would ask if I had told any one at work yet. No, not yet. But time is getting critical. Our schedules are made at 6 week intervals and I know in my heart that I need to reserve some space so they can plan not to schedule me for at least two weeks. But how do you tell them - I need some time off but I not quite sure when.
So, last week, the opportunity presented itself. I was getting more getting more eager to tell them about my news but I couldn't ever find the time because for the last 5 weeks I had been training another nurse on the floor. She was always there. My shadow. I finally broke away from her and was talking to the Specialty Coordinator about the schedule and how she needed some help on the night shift. For once, there were no interruptions. I thought to myself - Well, here I go!
So I told J - I've got some news. J asks what it was. I told her I would need some time off in May but I wasn't quite sure of the date yet. She promptly flips to her May schedule and then asks how long I need. I tell her a couple of weeks. She asks what is happening in May. I tell her, "My partner and I are having a baby and we are due in May." From nowhere comes this excitement from J. She is so excited about the news. I am floored. I thought I would receive shock and disbelief but no once again in my life of coming out - Total acceptance. I was relieved.
****
Vicky is doing great. The baby has decided she loves strawberry po.ptarts and doesn't like pasta any more. She is very active. We have another doctor's appointment on Wednesday and should schedule the dreaded glucose tolerance test when we go. Vicky thinks she has gained at least five pounds since her last weigh in - so we'll see. The belly button keeps threatening to pop out too.
Until next time...
I often thought or wondered how I would eventually tell them if we actually did get pregnant. When we did - my worries tripled. How do I tell them?? Do I tell them I'll need some time off in May for a family event? It seemed to me to be very overwhelming to have to come out to my employers and then say "Oh, by the way, we are expecting and the baby's due in May."
I would look for opportunities to tell them. The perfect time. But it never really happened. Vicky would ask if I had told any one at work yet. No, not yet. But time is getting critical. Our schedules are made at 6 week intervals and I know in my heart that I need to reserve some space so they can plan not to schedule me for at least two weeks. But how do you tell them - I need some time off but I not quite sure when.
So, last week, the opportunity presented itself. I was getting more getting more eager to tell them about my news but I couldn't ever find the time because for the last 5 weeks I had been training another nurse on the floor. She was always there. My shadow. I finally broke away from her and was talking to the Specialty Coordinator about the schedule and how she needed some help on the night shift. For once, there were no interruptions. I thought to myself - Well, here I go!
So I told J - I've got some news. J asks what it was. I told her I would need some time off in May but I wasn't quite sure of the date yet. She promptly flips to her May schedule and then asks how long I need. I tell her a couple of weeks. She asks what is happening in May. I tell her, "My partner and I are having a baby and we are due in May." From nowhere comes this excitement from J. She is so excited about the news. I am floored. I thought I would receive shock and disbelief but no once again in my life of coming out - Total acceptance. I was relieved.
****
Vicky is doing great. The baby has decided she loves strawberry po.ptarts and doesn't like pasta any more. She is very active. We have another doctor's appointment on Wednesday and should schedule the dreaded glucose tolerance test when we go. Vicky thinks she has gained at least five pounds since her last weigh in - so we'll see. The belly button keeps threatening to pop out too.
Until next time...
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
22 weeks
Sunday. She calls me. She is laying on the floor. Is she OK? She tells me to put my hand on her belly. I wait. Then it happens. Thump. Thump. Butter bean lets me know she is there for me to feel too. Oh happy day.
Friday, January 4, 2008
Preparation for Motherhood...Part 1
As Vicky begins to grow and our beautiful child begins to develop, Vicky slowly starts preparing for motherhood. As this is her first pregnancy and I have been pregnant before with our son, she asks me innocent and amusing questions all of the time.
The Development of the All-Powerful Mother's Spit
Vicky: Do you think my spit is powerful yet?
Me: What are you talking about?
Vicky: You know - now that I am pregnant and going to be a mommy - I should be getting my mommy spit.
Me: (giggling)
Vicky: Is it powerful now or will it only be powerful after I deliver the baby?
Me: I don't know the exact moment when the spit becomes powerful.
Vicky: But I will have it right?
Me: You have earned the honor of having All-Powerful Mother's Spit!!
The Development of the All-Powerful Mother's Spit
Vicky: Do you think my spit is powerful yet?
Me: What are you talking about?
Vicky: You know - now that I am pregnant and going to be a mommy - I should be getting my mommy spit.
Me: (giggling)
Vicky: Is it powerful now or will it only be powerful after I deliver the baby?
Me: I don't know the exact moment when the spit becomes powerful.
Vicky: But I will have it right?
Me: You have earned the honor of having All-Powerful Mother's Spit!!
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
Happy New Year!
What a year 2008 is going to be. It's only the first day of the new year and it promises to a busy one. From working, to finding a pediatrician, to meeting with lawyers, to growing a baby, to helping our teenager stay focused through the rest of the school year with out Vicky tearing his head off, to registering for cool baby stuff, to attending showers, to driving and cheering on our soccer star through the state championships (which is going to be a close call as they are scheduled for the last weekend in April), to finally finishing the nursery, to finally getting to hold our daughter in our arms. And I think that only gets us through May.
Without futher ado... the long awaited ultrasound pics....
And Vicky's favorite - she's showing her waddle...
Well we (I) got the walls painted today and got the floor almost finished. We took out the carpet and are putting in hardwood floors. It looks really good so far. We spent the day yesterday getting registered at the big BABY store. It took us like three hours. Who would have thought that you have to get so MUCH stuff just to have a baby. We had a great time. We picked up some precious outfits for her and various odds and ends.
Well gotta get to bed - back to the grind tomorrow.
Until next time...
Without futher ado... the long awaited ultrasound pics....
And Vicky's favorite - she's showing her waddle...
Well we (I) got the walls painted today and got the floor almost finished. We took out the carpet and are putting in hardwood floors. It looks really good so far. We spent the day yesterday getting registered at the big BABY store. It took us like three hours. Who would have thought that you have to get so MUCH stuff just to have a baby. We had a great time. We picked up some precious outfits for her and various odds and ends.
Well gotta get to bed - back to the grind tomorrow.
Until next time...
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